Gracing my inbox today:

Jenny Bean,

I don't really even know if i should call you that any more? Anyway, well i decided that i should really just clear the air so to speak, and be completely honest. Not even sure if you'll choose to read this but here goes...

So, where did all of this start? I'm still actually really confused about what actually happened, and why we aren't really speaking to each other (I thought our relationship was stronger than that). From my point of view, you were acting funny before the wedding, and then stopped speaking to me after (I rang you several times on our way up to dover for our honeymoon and you didn't answer, and I got the feeling you were ignoring me). I then sent you a text saying I was back and you happily replied, but then i didn't hear from you until you when you and Jon broke up and I texted you at new year. Which is a grand total of 1 conversation and 2 texts in 5 months (+ graduation). You mentioned when you rang that we were better off leaving 'the issue' but i think that from your point of view i've done something wrong, and from mine you've done something wrong. I'm just going to be honest,

-I didn't know that there were any major problems between you and me, until my mum (through your mum through a horrible text message) told me that you were crying and making a fuss on the morning after the wedding, that I had forced you to buy things and spend lots of money. So assumiong this is true and it wasn't just a case of bad chinese whispers, I will answer back to this-

The dress was £210, which you agreed to pay (I also remember saying at the dress shop that i didn't realise the dress was going to be so much and that you could choose another one if you weren't happy spending that much money- and you said you were loaded after being payed for the SAS and in london. When the other dresses came in as cheaper, I felt really bad and offered to pay for your shoes.

I payed £65 for the shoes, and £15 to have them dyed. Then £30 getting the alterations on your dress. which is £110.

Mrs Doctor payed £130 for her dress, £65 for her shoes, £15 for dying and then £20 for alterations. Which is £230- so you actually payed less than her.

I payed for the inital train tickets which was £40, and then you decided to drive. I also payed the £15 for both you and Jonto attend the minack which you didn't want to/couldn't attend. Dad payed for everything in london so that didn't cost you anything.

- The hen party was a real let-down if I am going to be honest. It was nice to get ready together, it was great that it was a suprise, and the restraunt was nice. But it was obvious that after jumping at the chance to be my head bridesmaid and plan the hen do, you put no effort into it. My mum only found out through a text from your mum, Mr Sarah's mum only knew through The sister, and The Other sister didn't end up there, as although you sent an initial text, you didn't follow any of it up. I know i said i didn't want it cheesy, but a plan would have been great, like a pub crawl with forfeits to complete? As it was in truro and there were only a couple cars, which meant that Mr Sarah's mum didn't come and that was a shame. I really feel that after the SAS you had a lot of free time and that Jon became your priority and that the hen party was pushed back in your mind- really all that happened was a meal out. I think you'll agree that if it had been your wedding and your hen night- you would have wanted more than that.

- The night before the wedding I was really upset. It had been planned like 2 months before that we were all going to my mums for a girly night in. Jon, and a shag, was obviously more important. You not being there really made me question my choice of bridesmaid, and i was honestly upset at you not wanting to be there with me.

-The wedding days itself you seemed really distracted and that you would have rather not been there. Although i did love your speech- you looked bored and annoyed during dinner. Then you disappeared half way through the reception (you did send Jon to apologize)- at what i think was about 9.30ish- as you aren't in any of the evening reception photos. I understand that you spilt chocolate down your dress, but i wouldn't have cared if you came back down in jeans. All of those nearest and dearest to me stayed up until 2 in the morning dancing and talking, drinking and watching us open presents.

- the morning after you just vanished- I know you were heading back to london, but you didn't even say goodbye.

I've been told by several people that big events and major moments help you to realise who your true friends are, and I really feel that you did not do your bit to show you were a true friend.

I feel that all throughout that week you were absent, absent in your planning of the hen do,absent at the minack that had been planned for weeks, absent the night before the wedding, absent during the wedding in mind, and then literally that night and then vanishing right after breakfast.

please let me know what issues you had so i can get some closure.
Mrs Sarah

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is it me, or does it sound like i've been dumped?